A non-confrontational approach
The collaborative and non-confrontational nature of family mediation can be a big help when children are involved. Parents need to work together for their children’s benefit even after they have separated or divorced. Not only are arrangements produced by both parents working together likely to be less stressful for all concerned and to last for longer, the experience of reaching agreement on the future is likely to encourage them to cooperate in the future.
is a place for young people in separating families to hear from others who have been there. Turner & Johnson is in partnership with the charity Kids in the Middle to help young people to tell their stories – we hope these videos and stories made by and for young people help you and the young people in your family.
Focusing on the children’s experience
Research suggests that children find it very difficult if their parents separate or divorce, but that the experience is much worse for them if they are very aware of their parents arguing with each other, particularly if they know that their parents are arguing about them. Family mediation offers a calm and neutral environment in which issues concerning children can be discussed and resolved without making the children feel that they are the cause of their parents’ unhappiness. Again, research strongly suggests that children want to be kept informed about what is happening, but don’t usually want to be given the responsibility for making the decisions – they don’t like the idea that they have to ‘choose’ between parents.
Our family mediators focus on the needs of the children in the family, and are able to provide further information about what children themselves have said about divorce and separation and about wanting their parents to work together.
'While mediation provides the chance for parents to repair their relationships sufficiently to be able to co-parent more positively in future, litigation in a real sense teaches couples to argue and to litigate, sometimes rather too well.'
Harte and Howard ‘Encouraging positive parental relationships’